At Aroga, we believe in the power of positivity. Sometimes when circumstances change, though, and we lose sight of what once excited us and fueled that positivity. When your role changes from visitor to caregiver, it can be difficult to shake some feelings of negativity. Good news: you are not alone! There are many people who feel this way. More good news: we’ve compiled some tips to help you shake those feelings right now. First, let’s try and figure out the root of the problem.
Where is the Negativity Coming from?
Identifying the cause of your feelings and attitude can help you pinpoint some tactics for kicking that negativity to the curb. Stressors are an inevitable part of life, but we have the power to face them head on.
Is the negativity and stress carrying over from something outside of the relationship with your loved one? Perhaps you’re working longer hours to snag a promotion, or your child is struggling with their schoolwork and you’re having to relearn algebra to help them. We are invested in so many things, and making visits to care for your loved one can add even more stress. Think about where you can ask for help. Can you hire a tutor for your student? Can you maximize your regular work hours to accomplish more while avoiding staying after everyone leaves? Carrying the weight of all these responsibilities can lead to resenting tasks you once held dear.
The last cause of stress is the hardest for anyone to face. If your loved one is a parent or grandparent, chances are you remember them having more energy, more vigor towards life, and perhaps much better health. It can be difficult to watch a loved one age or become ill, especially when it means they can’t take care of themselves. After all, these people once cared for you! The role reversal can be fulfilling, but it might also make us feel sad. These feelings are normal and expected. You are not alone.
“The simple act of caring is heroic.” –Edward Albert, actor
Power Your Positive Mindset
Take some time for yourself every day. Exercise, meditate, or just spend some time cozied up in your favorite corner of your home for a few minutes. Having some time to reflect on your day away from everything and everyone will help you recharge.
Keep a gratitude journal. When you’re feeling pessimistic, it can be hard to notice the most joyous parts of our lives. Take a few minutes each day – perhaps over your favorite cup of tea or coffee – to write down some things you’re thankful for. Do this each day for a week without writing any item twice. Bonus: if there are people on your list, send them a quick note that you are thinking of them and are thankful for that relationship. You’ll make their day, and you’ll find yourself smiling as well.
Finally, remind yourself that it’s okay to feel guilty or negative sometimes. You’re human! As hard as we may try to maintain a positive mindset, those pesky negative thoughts still sneak up on us sometimes. Try our tips and see how your outlook changes. If you find you need help caring for your loved one to achieve a positive mindset, please visit our website. We would love to help you find a professional caregiver – or at least make you smile.